It’s that knot of anxiety in the pit of your stomach when you walk down the street.
You step off the train, your bag in front of your breasts, flinching lest the next passerby brush you “accidentally-on-purpose.” It’s never knowing whether your boss is leaning just a too close.
Don't presume they're telling the truth about their sexual history or health.
You may want to believe it when he/she says they're "clean," or just got an aids test--but in reality, they're used to lying, and embellishing/fabricating facts to get what they want, and you honestly can't know who you're dealing with, when you've started dating. A former female friend years ago, had an affair with a successful (married) director.
No matter how luxurious the vacations or how lavish the jewelry, she always found some way to diminish the gifts you gave, and use them against you.
A few men have reported that the Borderline asked them to cut open an artery as ruth be told, Borderlines can't live with any real sense of peace and harmony.
It’s turning the music up loud so you don’t hear the catcallers, or turning down an invitation to a work outing because the coworker who’s going has a reputation for getting handsy when he’s drunk.
The following material was written for individuals trying to recover from a relationship that's had toxic consequences for them, and is not intended as a support resourse for Borderlines or anyone with BPD traits.
For a child who's basically grown up in a war zone, life never felt stable for very long--and as soon as it did, the rug was pulled out from under them again.
If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to Family members and friends haven't a clue, or any frame of reference for the trauma you're experiencing, so their simple solutions of; "just get over it" or "leave him/her, and find someone new" never work.
In fact, they can make you feel irritated or even more ashamed, sad or overwhelmed.
This malicious virus screws with your PC's functions and programs, to where you can barely navigate--and ultimately crashes your hard drive.
This is literally what happens to your mind, body and spirit when you've had exposure to the Borderline's toxicity for from childhood abandonment issues, is being stirred up right now.