Yet even as she went through the paces of partnering with him, Leonor found herself wanting to rewrite the script—and Dan’s betrayal became her chance to try again.For decades, Western men picked Filipinas out of catalogues, selecting from rows upon rows of hopeful women’s pictures printed on cheap paper, like a strange yearbook or police lineup.In one sense, the leveling of dating power between Filipinas and Westerners is the fulfillment of the global internet’s promise to equalize relations between disparate places and people.Yet even as Filipinas and Westerners face off as equals online, the world of dating exposes the ultimate limitations of the web.That house belonged to a woman who had married an American man she met through the mail.
After she got pregnant with their second son Zen two years later, Dan got a vasectomy without consulting Leonor, only calling from the hospital afterward to get picked up.
Divorce is illegal and socially taboo in the Philippines, but Leonor realized she would have to leave her husband.
She had followed a well-worn script when she and Dan met in 2001: beautiful young Filipina meets old but rich Western man.
When she decided to try online dating again, a month after she and Dan separated, Leonor was determined to make a wiser choice.
Unlike in 2001, when she and Dan exchanged emails and scanned pictures over a slow connection, Leonor had a robust set of online tools — video chat, social media, messaging apps — to help her find the right man.